Category Archives: Self-Esteem

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Have you checked your attitude lately?

Contrary to popular belief, your aptitude does not always determine your performance. You can be very intellectually capable or very physically able but if you have a bad attitude, your performance can and will seriously be undermined. What is attitude? It is usually defined or explained as a “an inward feeling expressed by behavior” So, really! Do we just have to monitor our behavior in order to improve our performance? Is it that simple? I believe there is more to it than that. The way we perceive and interpret our circumstances and things around us, our own self-esteem have a direct impact on how we perform. 

Basically, we do have a choice! It is not what life throws at us that is important but how we react to it. We all heard the saying when life gives you lemon, make lemonade! There is no need complaining about it, it is just like crying over spilled milk, not helpful. That is why happiness and inner peace come from within. All the materiel possession or money in the world will not make you happy if you have a negative mental attitude. Likewise all the security in the world will not give you inner peace if you always

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How to cure yourself from learned helplessness?

Have you given up on a dream of yours lately? Did you think, because you failed in the past in what you were pursuing, that you will get the same result. If these thoughts have crossed your mind, then you might me suffering from learned helplessness. This might be a familiar concept to you, but it was totally new to me when I first heard it from Anthony Robbins. Not knowing anything about learned helplessness, even though I suffered from it, I went researching the term and the following is what I found out. 

“The concept of learned helplessness was discovered accidentally by psychologists Martin Seligman and Steven F. Maier. They had initially observed helpless behavior in dogs that were classically conditioned to expect an electrical shock after hearing a tone. Later, the dogs were placed in a shuttlebox that contained two chambers separated by a low barrier. The floor was electrified on one side, and not on the other. The dogs previously subjected to the classical conditioning made no attempts to escape, even though avoiding the shock simply involved jumping over a low barrier.”

The dogs which were subjected to electrical shock believe they had no control over their situation. So they accepted their plight and did nothing. Now humans are not very different when it comes to

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Finding your why: a golden key for your success

Have you ever asked yourself why you are here on this earth, or why you do what you do? If you haven’t, now is the time to take a minute and reflect upon it. Most of us are like people running on a treadmill, making a lot of noise but going nowhere. Not knowing your purpose in life will jeopardize  your achievement. If you don’t find out what you were called for to do, you will spend your life building someone else’s dream. 

Whatever you are doing right now may not necessarily be your why, or may be it is! Only you can determine that. However, here is a tip: if time and money were not a problem, if you were a billionaire with no worries about income, how would spend your time, what would you do? Whatever your answer is, that’s exactly what you should be doing, that’s what you

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Are you really worthy of Success?

Reading the title, you might be thinking that it is a silly question, that of course you are worthy of success, but really, are you? Deep down inside you, do you feel worthy of being successful? The fact of the matter is many people do not even think about this at all, until the question is asked. It is natural tendency to believe that one should be successful. However, many are the people with this belief, whose feelings and wants are not congruent with their actions.

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Personally, I truly believe that every human being is worthy of success, including you and yes I mean you. My faith on that is based on the fact that our Creator did not make any junk, we were all created in His own image. So really the world is our oyster, we can be, do, have anything that is in our hearts desire provided that we work on one thing and one thing only and that is our sense of worthiness.

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What are you doing to develop yourself?

This weekend I had the blessing to attend a life changing leadership function in Denver. The event was organized but Worldwide Dream Builders, an organization with a mission “To provide opportunity, education, training, motivation, and the environment to succeed through a Free Enterprise System. To encourage a life of excellence with “No Regrets” while partnering with associates around the world who are also building their own personal businesses and achieving their dreams. To impact our generation and generations to come with the truth that God created us for greatness“

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One of the keynote speakers was John Maxwell, whose intervention was thru Satellite. Mr. Maxwell is an authority on leadership with over seventy books on the subject. His topic was “The 15 invaluable laws of growth”, which is also the title of his latest book. He taught some key aspects on personal growth that I would

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What do you say to the person in the mirror?

The most important conversations we have in our lives are those we have with ourselves. However, most people do not pay much attention to them, they often labeled them as self-talk and leave at that. Little do they know that self-talk, when it is positive, is a great tool for shaping and raising our self-esteem, it is also important for building our confidence. On the other side of the coin, saying negative things to ourselves can be also as detrimental.

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In other words, we have the power to build ourselves up or break ourselves down, the choice is ours. We become what we think about, we think about what we tell ourselves. Let’s focus on the positive for, what we focus on expands. In this post I would to share a text that many of us can use as a positive self-talk. It is from Og Mandino’s “The greatest salesman in the world II”. Believe me, it would not hurt to memorize it and have this conversation with

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Forgiveness is for you not for the other one

Have you ever been hurt, been hurt so bad that you cannot forget or forgive? Have you ever been betrayed by someone you really trusted. How did it feel? If it was depressing or was filling you with hatred, you need to let go. Your well being is more important than dwelling on someone’s past actions, even though they affected you. You need to release your anger in order to live a healthier life! You need to forgive, to live happier! But what is forgiveness and who do you forgive for?

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There is a definition of forgiveness that I like very much: “Forgiveness is the process of waiving any negative feeling or desire of punishment” The reason why I like this definition is that it has little to do with the wrongdoer. However my favorite ones are two that I once heard on the Oprah Show: “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that past could be different”; “Forgiveness is seeing the other person in the light of love rather than in the action of what happened”
Of course other definitions are still valid, like “the act of pardoning somebody for a mistake or a wrongdoing”, “to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt” to name just a few.